Saying goodbye again

On Tuesday, I lost another friend.

Ovarian Cancer won the battle again, dammit. One day we’ll stop it, but in the meantime it continues to devastate families and friends as it steals away our dearest people.

Yesterday was her memorial service, and it was wonderful. She’s been an inspiration and motivator to so many. The world is a bit paler and sadder because she’s not here any more. She was given a year at diagnosis and lived for two and a half, which tells you the kind of person she was. She didn’t stop for anything, and it was only in the last two months that reduced lung function and fatigue stopped her charging along at her usual pace.

Farewell, Trudy ❤ ❤ ❤

52 thoughts on “Saying goodbye again

  1. “Goodbyes …. are not forever….are not the end …it simply means I’ll miss you …. until we meet again”
    So sorry to hear about your friend Kate … all my love to you 💟

  2. tialys says:

    So sorry to read this Kate – she sounds like a wonderful woman and I’m sure she’ll be missed by many.

    • katechiconi says:

      Damo and the boys most of all, but yes, she’s been a driving force behind getting so much achieved. We’ll miss that loud laugh and intelligence and vision. Going forward, the Ovarian Cancer work we do will be for the Trudy Crowley Foundation, as agreed with OCA.

  3. anne54 says:

    The Trudy Crowley Foundation ~ wha a wonderful way to celebrate the life of this amazing woman. I am so sorry for you and all who loved her, but I know that you will fight on in her name. 💙

    • katechiconi says:

      Her best friend has taken on the job of carrying Trudy’s torch, so it will be in good hands. I am waiting for a brief to make Trudy’s memorial quilt, to be auctioned at the next Nude Lunch fundraising event.

  4. jmcheney says:

    I am so sorry you have lost a dear friend, another to this hideous disease, as have I so sadly over the years. She inspired you with her courage, strength & pluck, & now your far flung readers of this blog as well.

  5. kymlucas says:

    Ah, Kate, I’m so sorry. She was clearly a lovely person who left behind quite a legacy. I am sorry for your loss.

  6. kathyreeves says:

    Kate, what a loss for you and the community. The Foundation is a beautiful tribute. My heart goes out to you!

  7. I’m sorry for your loss. Friends are precious, and love lives on.

  8. manicmumdays says:

    So sorry to hear Kate ❤

  9. nanacathy2 says:

    Cancer is a horrid illness. Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your friend.

  10. Another sad loss.
    My brother-in-law, who worked in insurance, was given a year to live and was, therefore, allowed to claim his life insurance whilst still alive. To his dying day he was delighted that he had beaten the system because he lived many months longer. Every day is precious… sometimes we need reminding, though.

    • katechiconi says:

      Trudy was always gleeful about being a year and a half over the prognosis, so it was hard for her when everyone agreed the treatment had nothing more to offer and it was time to set her affairs in order. Even then, she got an extra two weeks out of it… I think we’re all grateful that it went quickly in the last few days.

  11. I am sorry for the loss of your friend. Sounds like she was an amazing person and touched everyone in a special way. When you lose someone special “i am sorry…” doesn’t seem to cut it, but there are not enough words.

    • katechiconi says:

      “I’m sorry” is so much better than nothing at all, and I appreciate it. She had many much closer friends, for whom I myself will struggle to find adequate words, but it’s important to reach out, I feel, rather than stay away because you weren’t sure what to say.

  12. claire93 says:

    Trudy sounds like a wonderfully dynamic and inspirational lady. So sorry to hear her family and friends now have to face the future without her.

  13. Conor Bofin says:

    Sorry for your loss Kate. It’s never easy and my thoughts are with you.

  14. Sandy says:

    So sorry for your loss. As horrible as this sound s I am thrilled she lived beyond the prognosis as that miracle hasn’t been happening often enough! As I read this I am waiting for my friend ‘s daughter who I love to bits. Her mom died of breast cancer last winter…….supposedly cured. Hugs and your new foundation will be wonderful!

  15. I always wonder if we will ever see the end of illnesses that end life so early. I am so sorry you have lost another friend. My heart goes out to you.

  16. dayphoto says:

    I clicked like although, I don’t mean I like this. I just wanted to let you know I read it and am so sad at the loss of another bright soul.

    • katechiconi says:

      ‘Like’ has to fill so many functions, and one of them is ‘I’ve read and acknowledged this’ or ‘I was here and want you to know’. Thank you for your kind words, Linda.

  17. Another star in the sky. It’s hard to lose our special people, so sorry.

    • katechiconi says:

      Her family sent out a message acknowledging all the words of support, say something to the effect that Trudy was up there enjoying swooping about on her new golden wings. So true, that’s exactly what she’d be doing!

  18. Emma says:

    I’m very sad to hear about this, I really hope that this year’s ovarian cancer quilt will be able to raise a lot of money and that one day we will be able to win the war against that horrible disease. Sending you and Trudy’s family all my love

    • katechiconi says:

      She has a left a remarkable legacy and did so much to raise awareness in our community that I think she has been personally responsible for saving quite a few lives already. The funeral was huge and there were a lot of people there in a position to do some good, so fingers crossed.

  19. Joanne S says:

    I am sorry for the loss of your friend. Cancers suck. She sounds like she was an amazing woman.

  20. Sad news of the passing of your friend and to many others, Trudy. Her legacy is significant which I hope will be of some solace going forward, along with memories, speaking her name and telling her stories.

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